Regret

My girlfriend is 25 weeks pregnant, and I still have a single regret.


When she told me she was pregnant I was in shock so really think I was not very supportive, or congratulatory, I think it took me a number of weeks to process to be honest, but feel I could have handled that aspect better. 

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