The shock of finding out your girlfriend is pregnant

After a lunch time catch up with some friends and a beer or two who also happened to be on holiday in Bali I returned to our hotel, my girlfriend acting a little suspiciously pulled out what at first I thought was a foreign COVID test but was a pregnancy test.

At first I was shocked, is this real? Is the test a cheap foreign one that does't work, and a few other thoughts of denial. Quickly this turned to a "do we keep it" thought but I knew my girlfriend wanted a child. We hugged and just layed on the bed thinking for a while. My thoughts covered the range of:

  • What if the child is born with defects?
  • How will this change our relationship?
  • What if I convince her to abort?
  • How will this affect our finances?
  • How will this affect my free time?
  • Is the test legit?
This is a lot to process.

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